Pastoral Care advice on return to school after closureFor many children returning to school after the extended COVID-19 closures may be a confusing and worrying time, at Mill Strand we are committed to making their transition back to school as positive and gentle as possible. During our first few weeks back there will be a special emphasis on helping children to feel safe and secure in school and a focus on well-being across all classes.
Your child may have some questions, concerns or worries about returning to school. This page includes resources to help parents and carers support their children, answer their questions in a sensitive age appropriate manner and help to make their return to school as smooth as possible. If you need any additional support please contact our Pastoral Team at school. A story to share with your child before they returnpreparing for the first day backSupporting children with return to schoolUncertainty
This is a very uncertain time and although it would be great if we could make COVID disappear- we can’t (not yet anyway). Children, like us adults, must learn to tolerate some uncertainty! This skill can help us to manage anxiety. Normalising It is also normal to feel very anxious about the changes. Change makes most people feel a bit strange and worried. Some people find this harder than others though. Modelling calmness You may be wondering whether to send your child back to school soon. You may have good reasons for wanting to keep your child at home for longer. Either way, just be aware of how you model your own anxiety when speaking to your child about returning to school. Speak to your child when you feel calm yourself. Listening and validating Listen to your child. Hear what their concerns are. Acknowledge their feelings and let them know that you know it’s tough for them We don’t have all the answers It’s ok to not have the answers. In fact, it’s better not to pretend that you know. We don’t know. It’s possible we may move back to school, then to lockdown, and back. This could go on for a while. Limit news and address misinformation If they are worried about getting unwell or making someone else unwell, agree to investigate some facts together. For example, you may look together at the facts in the news, but limit the amount viewed and address any misinformation the child has. You may want to look at what happened in previous illnesses in the past and how we got through it as a country. Limit reassurance Asking questions is helpful but giving excessive reassurance is not. It’s very tempting to give lots of reassurance to your child, as it may relieve anxiety in the short term. In the long term it keeps it going. Instead listen and ask them what they think, and what they think will help. Focus on possible strategies Help children to focus on possible strategies. Ask them how they adapted to the lockdown. What helped? What might help them now adapt to going back to school? There may be some things that immediately can be done to problem solve the concerns raised. For example, ‘I am worried that my friends won’t want to speak to me at school’. Agree an experiment to try this out before hand, such as try contacting a friend to speak or meet in advance of school starting. Deferring worries Children can also be encouraged to make a list of worries and have an agreed deferred time to worry about things on their list. For example, at 4pm spend 30 minutes worrying. This can help to contain worries, and often the worry feels less distressing at this deferred time. Parents preparing children for the return- routines, reconnecting with friends etc.Before returning to school, try and prepare children by getting them back into a routine. They will need to go to bed at a reasonable time, wake up early and learn to do the school walk/ cycle/ drive to school again. They could do some practice runs to school in the week or so beforehand. If they are not already doing so, help them to reconnect with friends to make the transition easier. They can meet with one friend in a park or via zoom etc. Preparing children for changes It might be helpful for parents and teachers to prepare children ahead of school starting via school websites and newsletters and that school may feel different. Classes may be smaller, they may have to wash their hands more, they may have less close contact with friends at school and stick to small groups of friends. All of this is to help keep them safe. After returning to school make new routines fun where possible In school, be clear about the new routines so that children have some sense of control. Help to make routines fun for example singing songs to washing hands. Listening to each other Adults should listen to children and not assume how they feel or what they have gone through. Help children to listen to each other too so they can process the huge changes. It is important to not ignore the changes that have occurred. As above limit reassurance, encourage a growth mindset.Help children to recognise that building tolerance of uncertainty can help them manage their anxiety and develop their growth mindset. It is like building up ‘mind muscles’. Limit reassurance as this can maintain anxiety. Instead encourage children to ask questions, and support skills in problem solving so they can consider their own solutions. Worry box and time Have a worry box so children can post worries in this through the day. Have a specified time to go through this and for when worries can be thought about more. Rewards Use rewards in and out of school to help children manage their anxiety about getting to school and managing at school. This should be age appropriate and not too expensive. Taking care of self and others Encourage children to think about their own mental health including eating healthily, exercising, doing things they enjoy, spending time with others. In addition, practice being kind to self and others. Remember it took us time to adapt to the lockdown, and it will take time to adapt back. Go easy on yourself. Dr Jess Richardson Principal Clinical Psychologist National and Specialist CAMHS Addressing anxiety and promoting RESILIENCE in children |
Some useful links
https://www.camhs-resources.co.uk/
https://www.autism.org.uk/services/helplines/coronavirus/updates/education-and-school/back-to-school-guide.aspx
https://www.mentalhealth.org.uk/coronavirus/returning-school-after-lockdown/tips-parents-carers-return-to-school
https://www.unicef.org/coronavirus/supporting-your-childs-mental-health-during-covid-19-school-return